Speak out ! And make thier perpetrators surrender.
_INSIYAPATANWALA
Sexual assault can happen to anyone, no matter your age, sexual orientation, or gender identity. SO , Rape. The word reminds us of harrowing crimes against women like the Nirbhaya gang-rape, unprecedented protests held by citizens across the country, and national debates involving various stakeholders including lawmakers and activists.
However, the word is associated with a basic assumption: a man unleashes brutal sexual violence on a woman. In our national debate about rape, rape on males is rarely, if ever, addressed.
ACTUAL PROBLEM:
1. “Men can’t get raped”
WHO SAID IT, WE ALL DO. BECAUSE MALE ARE STRONG AND PROTECT THEMSELVES , WHEREAS WOMENS ARE DICTATED AS WEAK , FRAGILE , ETC.Male survivors go through similar psychological torture as female victims, but because of the lack of supporting institutions and social acceptance, they are compelled to remain silent.
2. Mindset
If raped, a man is seen as unable to protect himself and at times labelled as ‘unmanly’.Worse still, survivors are dismissed because it is believed that they surely “must have enjoyed it”, a reasoning stemming from the thinking that men are ever-ready sexual beings, and thus the concept of ‘consent’ is often ignored in the context of men.
3. Absence of a strong legal framework
Patriarchal thinking is also reflected in our legal system. Section 375 of the Indian Penal Code does not include males as rape victims. The only route for a male victim to find justice is through Section 377, India’s anti-sodomy law, if he is assaulted by a male attacker. Sodomy, however, is not considered actual rape. Importantly, there is no distinction between consensual and non-consensual sexual acts between two male adults. If a female is the perpetrator, there is no mechanism for finding justice.
We are all here in a race , its just as life is like a stadium the more you score the more you are loved! but what you think , is it true ? confusion ? haha here i am back with no love stories : no betrayals , but something different .today i am here to speak , dont think about how boring it would be just read and share your views in the comment section. Since childhood we are always under pressure of standing first in academics , extra curricular activities and in being good books of teachers. this is not wrong , but surely impact our thinking .we observe that the one who scores well is popular , is loved by all , everyone wants to be friends with them and that’s natural .though no one succeed being a perfect student or a perfect child . but story doesn’t ends here , this was just a start .the thinking of being perfect doesn’t stop here , this is the stage when it begins :
The beginning of being successfull
The beginning of working hardthe beginning of wining , just winning
the beginning of hoping a perfect relationship
the beginning of hoping a perfect career
the beginning of hoping the luxuries life , a perfect place to live .
the beginning of admiring people and have a perfect in shape body , style or looks
the beginning of many good and bad hopes ! cant say it bad , there is nothing bad in the world its just our perception but yeah a hope which is can be a hurdle of our happiness and the last , the beginning of acquiring a perfect life oh i mean THE PERFECT LIFE .
In this never pausing life we are fighting with ourselves , with others in a fear of getting knocked out from the race.we just want to be famous , we want us to be loved by the people , we want to be rich ; classy ; charming.but somewhere we forget things which are really important to us and thats us , we , ourselves .in this world where we all are running to be wowww!
we forget this 3 things
We forget what we have
What we want,
And what actually matters to us !
we all learn to have high hopes to dream high but are not taught to look down and learn from the people who don’t have things which we have , who dream a type of living you are living right now ! think about those who doesn’t even know whether they will see their loved ones next morning or not .in this running and struggling life we forget ourselves , our talent , things what we love . To be successfull u need to be better person .dont strive meeting peoples need , ones u are satisfied with what u have stop there and live peacefully we complain each other for problems in our lives , but we are the one who create it no relationships are perfect as displayed on social media and on other sites , there are 100 of clicks done to get a single perfect shot , so think this a RELATIONSHIP which so much complicated that we can never end the fights and similarly its the way too beautiful that we are unable to end it
we should be thanking god for everything we have , because in chase of being perfect we forget thanking him , but remember complaining him about what we don’t have !
we should be thankful for the breathe we took just now
we should be thankful for the eyes we have , we can see so many colours and happy faces around us
we should be thankful for our ears that brings those beautiful birds chirping voice to us , those amazing music we hear
we should be thankful for this nose which smells delicious food which is coming from our mom’s kitchen
we should be thankful for our legs that help us running (oh not for being perfect ) , walking , to travel around the world with ease
we should be thankful for this hands which helps us helping others
we should be thankful for this body which is so imperfectly perfect.
After failing for so many times in being perfect my mom asked me that why u want to change ? tell me the reason , why are u just rushing to be someone whom your are not?without any reply from me , she got it !its society , we cant blame people because it is our mistake , we let them involve in our life .we live to please society for being accepted in the so called good group
Remember u can never be successful until u are happy , until people around you thats the family , your friend are happy no one is perfect and can never be !so dont regret about the way you look just because you think how will people see me , if u accept yourself the way you are everyone will start loving you dont think about how much you earn , if u draw a smile on a single face each day . You are the most richest person in the worlddo what u love , be what you are and stay healthy for not being in a shape but to live healthy life , and you win your livingfor some minutes or an hour we get motivated after a lecture from our parents or after watching or reading a motivational article or video but again we are on track of doing what others do or what others love . there are many challenges in our life , many hurdles will come accross your path but never lose hope !hope is like a flame in the dark room , and never giving up attiude will bring fire to the flame that will light up the room . So be yourself an keep trying for not winning but living happier !
so guys take care of yourself leave your comments down in the comments box will love to read them and do share your veiws so even i will learn from you all
“stop shouting ravi ” ,said maya .”i will shout! because i cant take this obligations now, it has been 10 years we are together still you dont trust me” ,said ravi. Couple was busy fighting on how maya doubt him for his friendship with divya and how ravi is irresponsible towards thier relationship.(divya was ravi’s colleague and were best friends from childhood)in this chaotic situation a 9 year old little boy vivaan ( their son) was peeping from the hole of the door in the room ravi heard his son whimpering and opened the door he took his child and make him go to sleep .
Next morning everything was normal but not for vivaan , his mother was extremely strict and on the other side ravi was his friendmaya never took vivaan seriously she used to misss her parents meeting , used to be out of town for days ………
but the worst part for the family was yet to come !couple used to fight every other day and maya’s behaviour towards vivaan was making him away from hervivaan was an average child and maya wanted him to score excellent , vivaan was a naughty child and had lots of complains from whichever place he visit.maya was over possessive towards her relations with ravi and her child, her intentions were not bad the her way was wrong.
Once maya had to go out for a week for a deal , this made vivaan happy , that he can enjoy this week without any restrictions , maya leaves on sunday nightnext morinig the schedule remains the same but as vivaan returns home , he see one lady sitting on sofa waiting for him. vivaan asks her who she is ? she replies , i am divya your dads friend whole day vivaan and divya enjoys and vivaan starts getting attach to her , till evening she asks vivaan that keep it secret and not to share about her with anyonen , vivaan says ” yes do but have to promise me that you will also come everyday to meet me .she agrees and leaves.that night ravi see vivaan being happy enjoying and talking with himself . ravi thinks its because maya is not at home . next day too divya was waiting for him at home , she played with him enjoyed and said him that “vivaan , beta you are the best , your mom doesnt love you .this repeated for next 4 days , during all of this days she told him that she loves him very much and cant leave him alone , ravi had no idea about it .on the last when maya was going to return , divya asked vivaan whom will he choose as a mother vivaan says “you”divya says that you have to kill your mom who hits you and even dont love you if you want me as your mother
That night was scary because a 9 year old child hits his mother on her head with a vase.hopefully maya didnt got major injury but his parents were shocked on how their child attacked on his own motheras it was attempt to murder case hospital registered a case against vivaaninspector aarav mehta was speechless knowing this scenario, he and his team went in search of divya but she was out of station for a deal and had to come after 3 days
As she reached police arrested her and asked vivaan whether she was with you and vivaan declined!everyone was amazed that divya was in front of him and he said that she was not the one , even divya said that she was at office and had left for the deal on saturday so it was impossible for her to meet vivaan they made the sketch of the lady whom vivaan used to meet and started finding her , police had no leads regarding ms duplicate divya even his parents parents dint knew her but the strange part was yet to come !the woman, police was finding didnt exist , according to vivaan she sometimes used to be with him during shower , watching tv having breakfast and even while playing this left ravi and maya horrified they decided to consult a child psychologist , and took vivaan to her after 1 hour session psychologist got to know that the woman he is seeing and talking continously is his illusion and he is going through schizophrenia
As ravi and maya used to fight about divya this made vivaan think of her and due to harsh nature of maya he started creating an image of divya in his mind . he created divya as he want his mom to be and the attempt to murder was his mindset of bringing divya in his life and remove mayamaya was left speechless .psychologist asked them to spend more time with and control their fight , maya left her job and started spending time with vivaan , she enjoyed with him and made him understand she loves him very much after 6 months vivaan again had a session with psychologist , she asked him that , does divya aunty comes to meet you ? he declined and said i told her that i love my parents and not to come in my life and she never returned……. after returning vivaan wrote divya maya is my mother on his door of the room
Researchers believe high-conflict marriages take a toll on a child’s mental health for several reasons:
Kids are emotionally insecure , The parent-child relationship may be affected , Fighting creates a stressful environment. And can lead to many other problems
The psychotic symptoms of people with schizophrenia, such as hallucinations and delusions, may produce experiences that others consider bizarre and incomprehensible. Spiritual experiences, which are generally thought of as ‘special’ and ‘uncommon’ may be viewed as signs and symptoms of mental illness
Fighting with the deadliest disease, At the last stage of cancer. With lots of hope and ease, Everyone is praying for me, will god answer?
Can’t say for how many days or months , I am still alive But on this bed I recalled my whole life. I am struggling since the age of five, That time i only had my mom , now i also have my wife .
During my old days i struggled for money, I compromised many things as being the eldest sibling. I worked hard for my family whether it was winter or the day was sunny, I stood up everytime after trumbling.
Always thought about savings, Believed that let’s work hard today and enjoy tomorrow, This killed my today’s cravings, For my never coming tomorrow.
_insiyapatanwala
This poem means alot to me
As it’s a real life story of a hero who strugled his whole life for his family .
he left this year leaving alot of beautiful , happy memories for his family.
I hope, if i did justice to his feelings and messages to his family and others through my words
From the day she is born she is said, ‘to be in her limits ‘ Why can’t she wear the clothes of her desire ? Why is she told not to laugh in public ? Why is she stopped by traveling alone ?
Whenever a man is assaulting or molesting her , why is she always blamed for no reason ? Why always she have to compromise ? Why besides of studies household work and marriage is given first priority in women’s case ? Why her clothes are judged , whether she is in burqa or a skirt rapists do thier work , whyyyy ? Why even in this modern world girls have to go through this stuff ?
Each and every women wants to ask , WHY ?
If you are not in this situation , it doesn’t mean it’s not happening with someone else .
*Sorry* if anyone found my words hurtful .
I didn’t want to hurt anyone intentionally !
~insiyapatanwala
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